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Because I'm Happy

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 16:14:07 GMT

Pharrell’s song “I’m Happy” has plagued the world and I love it! When the song comes on the infectious words and music evokes you to let down your guards and dance and sing. In those moments you really do feel happy!

But, what happens when the song goes off and we have to get back to our everyday living, are we manifesting and cultivating happiness then? If, we are not, then how can we?

My honey and I recently came back from a yoga retreat in Bermuda, and boy was it AMAZING! The people are so nice there and I loved loved loved the eclectic culture. I really did not want to come home because it felt so much like we belong there. I was not ready to come back to the hustle-bustle, fast-paced, rude-people, polluted-air, stressed-out lifestyle here in the good old capital of USA. It had me wondering why are Bermudians so nice? Where do the happiest people in the world live? What types of lives do they live? So, I did the infamous google search and came across an article that list the places who have the happiest residents and here are some of the things they have in common:

♥ Gratitude ♥

♥ Natural Diet ♥

♥ Friendship ♥

♥ Active lifestyle ♥

♥ Purpose ♥

♥ Being in Nature ♥

♥ Limited Technology Use ♥

♥ Slower Pace ♥

♥ Simplicity ♥

♥ Optimism ♥

♥ Low stress level ♥

Another inspiring and informative source is the documentary “happy”: http://www.thehappymovie.com/film/ which can be watched on netflix, hulu or amazon prime. It is an awesome documentary that will definitely inspire you even more on your happiness journey! It highlights the role of genetics, circumstances and our intentional actions that all impact happiness (see chart below). They get into the bio-psycho-social components of happiness, there is even a field called “positive psychology” that specifically studies happiness.

Circumstances only account for 10%, yet we focus so much on it in the US!

Did you know: Dopamine (which is a hormone/neurotransmitter) is a critical component of happiness, and starting in adolescence we begin to lost dopamine synapses, no wonder so many adolescence and adults are unhappy.

More on dopamine: https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/dopamine

So, I thought, hmmmm….how can I apply this to my life? Which gave birth to the “Happy Lifestyle” 12 month Challenge ! It is designed to give you monthly goals and activities to live a happier life. I will be posting a new goal and activity monthly so check back every month and comment to let me know how it’s working/not working for you. I am always open to hear your feedback and suggestions.

What I learned most is that life is all about BALANCE! Not the balance you think you are suppose to have, or what everyone else is doing or expecting you to do; but the balance that is consistent with your values, purpose, lifestyle and speaks to your spirit/soul. When you know you know, and if you take time with yourself and tap into your intuition you will find all the answers you need!

Reflection:

Are you happy?
What is happiness to you?

Do you manifest anything from the list above in your life?

COMMENTS:

uni_vs_soul says:

January 20, 2015 at 12:22 PM

This is an awesome article and I commend you for challenging yourself with the one year program! I think I may manifest maybe about 4-5 of the lifestyle characteristics mentioned in your list but I still have much more work to do to reach personal fulfillment and happiness. Look forward to checking back to see how things progress for you!

Serenity Rain says: February 5, 2015 at 9:36 PM

Thank you for your feedback! Will you join me on this journey?

Nikia Scott says: February 20, 2015 at 10:20 AM

Love this article! Kinda feeling jyped though because I need some dopamine and not sure how to get that ***ripps hair out!*** :-0

Serenity Rain says: February 22, 2015 at 6:10 PM

I’m so glad you enjoyed this article! Have you checked out my post “Terrible 2’s my derriere”, located under “Confessions of a 20 something mom”? I think you will enjoy that especially since you are in that era now…lol! Also, would you like to join me on the “Happy Lifestyle” challenge? Check it out under “Challenges” I definitely think it would be beneficial for you and I would love to have you experience this with me!!!

Beating The Odds

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 22:02:16 GMT

Our family has definitely been blessed on many occasions, especially when it comes to our children. I have been pregnant 3 times and each has been at-risk. I am so grateful to be able to tell our story and have 2 healthy children and being on our journey to have another healthy baby! #Proudmommy

Our first born, Marley, was only surviving in utero on a 2 vessel umbilical cord when normal babies have a 3 vessel cord. I had to be induced a week before my due date to prevent any complications. With the intentions of having an all natural vaginal birth, Marley started to go into distress (his umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck) and I had to be rushed to have an emergency cesarean section. I was in a panic and all I can think about is “There goes my all natural birth plan and sculpted stomach!” He was born a healthy 6lbs 11oz. No major complications for him and we were able to go home in 3 days. Now, he is a healthy vibrant 4 year old who is very smart and athletic and an awesome big brother! #ourhandsomemarleyman

On Wednesday, March 27 2013 @ 4:07pm our 2nd born, Garvey, was born I was only 22 weeks and 6 days, he was 465 grams (which is 1.02lbs-he was about the size of a water bottle), his eyes were still fused shut, his skin was paper thin and he had to stay in the NICU for 130 days (numbers I will never forget). Now, he is a vibrant healthy busy 21 month old who is the pickiest eater I know and has a charming smile (he is truly a ladies man)! #garveyoursouljah

Now, I’m 33 weeks pregnant with our 3rd baby, Zora, and I’m on bed rest in the hospital because I have an incompetent cervix. I have been 2cm dilated since I was 24 weeks and I have been on bed rest for a total of 9 weeks-the first 2 weeks spent at home and the last 7 weeks (and counting) spent at the hospital. As I lay in the hospital bed awaiting the arrival of princess Zora, despite being in this situation I am so grateful and I am reminded of how powerful the higher powers that be are and that everything is going to be ok. So, I’m calm and relaxed and thankful! #PrincessZora

2 thoughts on “Beating the Odds”

Kiesla says:

March 10, 2016 at 10:48 AM

I had a similar situation with both pregnancies. I have type 1 diabetes so i was already high risk, with Khloe I was induced because my placenta failed. Aiden just came 5 weeks early

Reply
Serenity Rain says:

March 10, 2016 at 1:31 PM

Thanks for sharing your story Sistar @kiesla, one it’s phenomenal how amazing the female body is—to be able to carry, sustain and give life. Two it’s amazing how resilient our babies can be to overcome and thrive through a difficult entry into the world! We are definitely blessed!!! Thanks again for sharing your amazing story!!!

Love, Peace & Happiness,
Serenity Rain

Imperfect Mommy (Doubts about being a parent & my parenting)

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 19:49:15 GMT

I finally have come to the realization that I will not ever be the perfect parent. I am officially accepting myself as the imperfectly open, vulnerable, authentic , loving, compassionate, empathetic and understanding parent who has flaws!

This section of the website is about my confessions as a mom, so there are things on here that I have thought but probably never shared but I want to share my imperfections and confessions with the world so that we can heal and grow together!

So here we go…

I contemplated having an abortion with each of my pregnancies. Ahhhh…it feels so good to say that, to get it off my chest… Who else can identify? I am pro-choice, but I never thought in my life I would get, let alone think about having, an abortion. Just to clarify, I never got an abortion, just contemplated, which I still feel guilty about, but I feel like it is a conversation that no one wants to talk about but for some it may be healing. I experienced mixed emotions when I became pregnant. I knew I always wanted to be a mother but every time we conceived I felt we weren’t ready–we were too young, we weren’t getting along, we both still have a lot of healing and growing up to do. Thank goodness my desire to want to be a mom overrode my emotional turmoil and I have 3 healthy children. But, why don’t we women talk about this? Why is this topic so taboo? So many women struggle with these feelings and thoughts and feel so ashamed and alone. I wish that we were more open as a society and not so judgmental. I believe the world would be a better place if people were more open, vulnerable, authentic , loving, compassionate, empathetic and understanding. Too many of us live our entire lives in behind a façade–will we truly be who we are? What will it take?

I am freeing myself from the paralysis of fear and removing my façade. I choose to be open, vulnerable, authentic, loving, compassionate, empathetic and understanding! Yes, I contemplated abortion and because I had that experience I understand why many women contemplate it and actually follow through. Everyone has their own reasoning. Who am I to judge the next person? I have no idea what they are experiencing in their lives and even if they do reveal to me their situation and reasoning, it is their life and they decide what path they want to take. Everyone is the expert in their own lives! I still have many doubts about my parenting: Am I a good enough mother? Why did I spank/ scream at them? How can I spend more time with them? I should have prevented him/her from falling? How can I heal all their woes and fix all their problems? What do people think of me and my parenting? Am I raising them the right way? Am I teaching them the right values? What do I value?

I say all of this to say, that it is normal to have doubts but don’t allow those doubts to run your life. Once you open up to other people you will also see that you are not alone in the struggle. It is so liberating to know that I can share with others, not be judged and sometimes find humor in my crazy but normal thoughts, emotions and actions. We have to let down our guards and start sharing more, someone needs to hear your story and you need to hear someone else’s, it is very beneficial to the healing process and it is so liberating. So, for everyone out there who has the question: Will I ever be a good parent? The answer is–whatever seed you plant it will manifest and come into fruition! If you have the desire to be a good parent, and are intentional, you will! No one will ever be the “perfect” parent, imperfection is inevitable because we are human, but you can be the best parent you can be if you want to. If you believe it you can achieve it!

If you are contemplating abortion or unsure about what to do, here are some great resources:

http://www.justmommies.com/forums/f100-unplanned-pregnancy/2574993-contemplating-abortion.html

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/pregnancy/pregnant-now-what/thinking-about-abortion

http://pregnancy-helpline.net/pregnancy-options/considering-abortion/

If you know someone who may be considering abortion, here is a resource to help you help them:

http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/12/6-ways-to-support-a-friend-who-is-considering-an-abortion/

https://www.lifesitenews.com/blogs/how-to-communicate-with-a-friend-considering-abortion

Also, a great book to read about being an imperfect parent and accepting and loving yourself, check out my favorite writer: Brené Brown http://brenebrown.com/ and her book “The Gifts of Imperfections” http://www.amazon.com/The-Gifts-Imperfection-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X

#imperfectmommy #doubtsandparenthood #abortion #support #letstalk #wearemorealikethandifferent #letsshare #giftsofimperfections #itsok #weallhavedoubts #thereisnoperfectparent #taboo

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Happy Lifestyle Challenge

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 19:24:38 GMT

Happy lifestyle is a great way to approach every day. In this challenge we will explore what happiness means to us and how to incorporate those things in our lives. Studies on behavioral change say that it takes 21 days to form a new habit (or break an old one).

HaPpY Lifestyle Challenge

Published: January 06, 2015 Category: challenge, Challenges, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, happiness, lifestyle, minfulness, optimism, purpose

So, lets start forming new habits of happiness by incorporating a new value/principle of happiness each month. This is my first time doing this challenge, so I may be changing or adding new things as we go (life is a journey) so be patient with me during this time! I also want to hear from you: What do you think I should add/subtract? Are you enjoying the challenge? Please post your comments and feedback, in order to grow I need support from my village! So brew a cup of tea, crack open a new journal & explore!

Before you begin the monthly challenges, watch the documentary happy: http://www.thehappymovie.com/film/ on netflix, hulu or amazon prime. It is an awesome documentary that will definitely inspire you even more on your happiness journey!

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Month 1: PURPOSEFUL QUALITY ME TIME

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Rita — March 15, 2016

I LOVE THIS!

Serenity Rain — March 22, 2016

Thank you sis! I'm so glad this speaks to your heart and soul, I hope you visit often and join the Serenity Reigns movement!!!

Created my purpose vision board this month with the questions in mind: what makes me happy? What do I value? and what is my purpose?

"Happiness means living a life with purpose and meaning in a way that is making a difference in the world, using all your talents, strengths & abilities!" ~Universal Class Wellness Coaching

“The person who lives life fully, glowing with life’s energy, is the person who lives a successful life.” ~Daisaku Ikeda

This month's goal is to focus on our life's purpose. We will spend some quality time with ourselves to really know and understand ourselves and our purpose in life. Researchers in the cutting-edge field of positive psychology have discovered individuals who feel a "meaningfulness" or purpose in life report less pain, reduced anxiety and an overall feeling of happiness. Other studies show purpose in life can significantly reduce stress and, in turn, discourage related substance abuse. Research also shows life purpose can decrease episodes of depression. (http://www.chicagotribune.com/sns-health-life-purpose-happiness-story.html).

The Simple Answer to Lasting Happiness is Living Your Purpose! (http://tinybuddha.com/blog/discovering-happiness-through-purpose-in-3-natural-steps/).

Reflect

♥ What is happiness to you? What really makes you happy?

♥ Are you living the life you want to live? What do you enjoy doing?

♥ What's your life purpose?

♥ What goals do you have for yourself?

♥ What are your strengths? How can you maximize them?

♥ What are your weaknesses? How can you learn to work on improving them or just simply learn to accept them?

♥ What do you value? Are those values consistently present in your life?

Activities
♥ Meditate, brew some tea and just relax and sit with yourself for 30 mins to an hour and reflect on the questions above (write down in your journal)

♥ Create a vision board reflecting on what makes you happy and have fun with it (like the one I created in the picture above)

♥ Develop your personal Mission Statement

"I dedicate myself to an attitude of gratitude in order to improve my health and my wealth. I will continue to work towards improving my holistic wellness in order to become a successful wellness coach. With this attitude, I will generously share my time and my talents with my family, my friends, and my community."

♥ Do something you like to do at least once every week of this month. Make time for a self-care/pamper yourself day (give/get a facial, massage, manicure, pedicure)

♥ Make a promise to yourself to commit to during one thing nice for yourself once a month

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Month 2: POSITIVE MINDSET- OPTIMISM & GRATITUDE

"An attitude of gratitude yields opportunity" ~Yogi Tea

“a pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the

opportunity in every difficulty.” ~Winston Churchill

The goal for this month will be to focus on the things we appreciate, are grateful for and how to incorporate more optimism and gratitude in our lives. Optimism has been proven to improve the immune system, prevent chronic disease, and help people cope with unfortunate news. Gratitude is associated with optimism and has been determined that grateful people are happier, receive more social support, are less stressed, and are less depressed. (http://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/science-of-happiness/positive-thinking/)

Reflect

♥ What are you grateful for?

♥ Who are you grateful for?

♥ How do you express gratitude to others? in your life?

♥ Do you need to express gratitude more often?

♥ How does an attitude of gratitude yield opportunities for you?

♥Are you optimistic or pessimistic?

♥ How can you become more optimistic?

Activities
♥ Meditate, brew some tea and just relax and sit with yourself for 30 mins to an hour and reflect on the questions above (write down in your journal)

♥ Read/Peruse this article on the positive correlation of gratitude and optimism to happiness: http://www.pursuit-of-happiness.org/science-of-happiness/positive-thinking/

♥ Watch this video on the "Psychology and Philosophy of Happiness: Optimism and Gratitude"- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M-6KCijp1lw

♥ Keep a mindfulness daily journal/log this whole month (or atleast 21 days): Be mindful of your optimistic and pessimistic thoughts. This way you can get a better view of whether you are more optimistic or pessimistic

♥ Create a Gratitude list and hang it up somewhere visible (next to bathroom mirror, back of front door, and/or car dashboard). Look at it at least once a day and more if you are having a bad day.

♥ Gratitude Letter: Write a letter expressing gratitude to a person who have changed your life in a positive way

My 2015 Gratitude List! It really does help through the hard times to look at this list! I'm so thankful!!!

See my post expressing my gratitude of being a mom, "Beating the Odds".

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Month 3: FORGIVENESS & COMPASSION

"If you don’t like something change it, if you cant change it--change the way you think about it"

This month's focus is about forgiving yourself and others, letting go and embodying compassion throughout the entire process. Forgiveness starts with forgiving and having compassion for yourself! Forgiveness is freeing, so let your wings of forgiveness expand & fly!

Reflect

♥ What is forgiveness?

♥ What is compassion?

♥ What do you need to let go of in your life?

♥ Who do you need to forgive?

♥ Have you forgiven yourself?

♥ Do you have compassion for yourself?

Activities
♥ Meditate, brew some tea and just relax and sit with yourself for 30 mins to an hour and think about letting go in order to let happiness in

♥ Draw a picture of your heart now and then draw a picture of how you want your heart to look. Reflect on how you can get your heart to look like you want it to look

♥ Write down all your grievances with yourself , other people and the world

~Select 3 to focus on

~Write a letter to yourself forgiving yourself

~Then write a letter for the other hurts and explain why you are hurt and then why you need to forgive and let go and then write down steps of how you're going to forgive and let go!

♥ If at any time you get discouraged during this process listen to "Wings of Forgiveness" by India Arie (below)

http://youtu.be/qxMLZjqZ8wE

Conception of Serenity Rain

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 19:07:24 GMT

My birth name is Araina. I was given that name because I was born on a rainy April afternoon and my mom was creative enough to put an "A" at the beginning and end of "rain" thus "Araina" was born. Coincidentally, Araina also happens to mean "Queen" in Latin, which suits me perfectly!

Conception of Serenity Rain (Reigns)

Published: June 12, 2014 Category: Uncategorized

I really love my name as well as the the story and Latin meaning behind it, but I felt that my spiritual awakening required a slight name change (let's say addition), especially since everyone seems to murder the pronunciation of my name...arrrrrgggggh...drives me insane!

Dealing with all the mispronunciations is enough to drive anyone nuts! Take for instance, the beginning of the school year when roll is called for the first couple of weeks, teachers would constantly call out "Air-re-auna". I would politely respond, "No it's Araina, pronounced like Rain with an A in the front and A in the back, a-RAIN-a". When I got to college, I was tired of the mispronunciation, so I dropped the two "A's" and kept it simple with RAIN. It was much easier for people to remember, but then spelling it became an issue. "Is it spelled Reign or Rayne?", people would inquire and I would say, "No, Rain like the Rain!" and I even had a cute little jester that I adopted from the song "Chicken Noodle Soup" by Webstar Young B. From that point forward, I created a new identity. No longer was I the girl that had the foreign name that no one could pronounce; I was now the girl who everyone would point to when the word "rain" came up in songs.

The addition of Serenity was inspired during the beginnings of my healing journey; I wanted to change my facebook name to mirror the reflection of my aspirations toward healing, harmony and balance and the first thing that came to mind was "Serenity Rain". Now, it has evolved into a brand that I would like to share with the world. Serenity Reigns means that peace rules my life, despite the many obstacles and challenges. Having a serene foundation ensures that nothing can shake or uproot me; enduring chaos and still maintaining an inner calm; and remaining tranquil through the storm. I am not quite there yet, but that's why this is a journey!

This is where you come in! Grow, share and embark on this journey with me! This is a community and I would love to hear what you have to say!
What does Serenity mean to you?

What Reigns in your life?

Where are you in your journey?

What brought you to Serenity Reigns?

Comments

Nikia Scott — February 20, 2015

Lol! Now I know why you changed your name so many times! Lol.... I'm inspired to figure out my new name now. Especially since ppl can't decide between calling me Kia or Nikki

Serenity Rain — February 22, 2015

Lol...once Serenity Rain was given to me, it fit me so perfectly, it was a match made in heaven! This is definitely my Spiritual/higher self name! You should explore what your spiritual/high self name is? What inspires you? What is your purpose? What speaks to you? Your spiritual name comes from within--its an intrinsic journey, the more you get to know yourself it will come to you! It doesn't matter what other people call you, what do you want to be called! Claim your name Sis!!!

Quiana Gillison-Young — March 10, 2016

This is beautiful Reign! I glad you finally "gave birth". Much success!
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Serenity Rain — March 10, 2016

Thanks so much for your positive energy and support!

Reasons, Seasons & Lifetimes

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 19:01:34 GMT

This poem is so true!!! When I reflect on all my relationships/friendships over the past 10 years, I realize how this resonates in my life! I have people who have come into my life for reasons and initially when the relationship/friendship ended I was devastated but now when I reflect on it I understand for the most part what reason they served and I can learn from that, be thankful and grow.

Reasons, Seasons & Lifetimes

Published: August 19, 2016 Category: Harmony

Some people have come in my life for a season and sometimes the relationship/friendship is drawn out past its seasonal end date because I was trying to hold onto something that was not suppose to last, I also learned from those relationships/friendships and I am still grieving some of those relationships/friendships but I realize more each day that both the relationship/friendship and the end of the relationship/friendship was a blessing and lesson and soon I will let go fully and move on. Then I have my friendships/relationships, that have stood the test of time and I just know are lifetimes. We may endure our ups and downs but no matter what I can depend on and count on them!

When it's time to let go, let go! Some relationships/friendships are way pass their reason and/or seasonal expiration! It's ok to let go, grieve the relationship, realize the blessings and lessons and then move on so that you can grow!!! Every relationship/friendship is no suppose to be for a lifetime, but definitely cherish those ones that have stood the test of time! You know in your heart and soul which relationships/friendships fall into reason, season or lifetime!

So, my question to you is:

"What about your friends...do they stand their ground, do they let you down"

REFLECTION

As you reflect on your relationships/friendships can you identify your reasons, seasons & lifetimes?

Are you holding onto relationships/friendships that is not serving a purpose in your life or giving you life?

Have you confused reasons and seasons for lifetimes?

Do you need to do some spring cleaning and let go of some expired reasons and seasons?

Do you cherish your lifetimes?

Namaste

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Dear Mom

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:57:49 GMT

Mothers Day is a bittersweet celebration for me! Though I am very grateful to be a mom and love to be celebrated I also have to face the reality of the lack of a healthy relationship between me and my own mom!

Dear Mom,

Published: May 06, 2016 Category: Harmony

Usually, I get really emotional around this time of year thinking about it, but this year I’m accepting it for what it is and appreciating the lessons I’ve learned from my mother and valuing the other mothers who came in my life to help me mature and grow into the woman I am today! I also decided to write my mother a letter, which is a part of my grieving and forgiving process!

Dear mom,

Things are tough right now and it sucks that we are not talking and bonding! My decision to separate from you now is due to my unwillingness to pretend that everything is ok and sweep everything under the rug! I can’t live like that anymore, it was killing me inside! The pink elephant in the room was standing on top of my chest and I was suffocating! You may not ever understand why I’m not talking to you right now because of your mental illness. Narcissism prevents you from truly being yourself, loving yourself and connecting with yourself so I can’t expect you to love or connect with me when you can’t do it for yourself. For too many years, I tried to change me, you and our situation and it drove me crazy, literally! I devoted my life to it, I majored in psychology, wrote endless papers on mother-daughter dynamics, spent countless hours in therapy, had multiple break downs, been hospitalized for stress/anxiety/depression related issues, talked about our issues until I was blue in the face and now I finally had enough. I love you but I love me more and I have to save myself and nurture and love myself so I can be able to nurture and love my children in a healthy way.

I used to say I hated you but now my feelings towards you are softening because I understand more about you and your upbringing and struggles. I am in the process of forgiving you, I really want to forgive you and I have to allow myself to grieve so I can authentically forgive you! I understand now that your battle with narcissism makes it hard for you to love me like I needed and need you to. I realize that you grew up in a dysfunctional home with a non-present alcoholic father and a narcissistic prejudice mother. You didn’t know any better and you only did what was taught to you! You had me at 16 because you didn’t feel loved and you thought that I would be yours and love you unconditionally! I understand why you thought that and I understand why me breaking free of you is hurting you too! But, you also tried to break free of your mother and dysfunctional family too, remember? You tried to make a better life for me and you and you tried hard! I appreciate that! When I reflect on my life I can see you tried! You really did try! But because you were and still are unaware of the impact your family had on you, you struggled and still struggle! In attempting to make a better life, you became a manipulator, a pathological Liar, a hoarder, an emotional/verbal abuser, and a narcissist!

I want better for you! I want you to be healthy! I want you to be healed! I want you to be in my life! I want you to be in my kids life! But it has to be in a healthy manner because I’m not going to expose my kids to the dysfunction! They already have to deal with enough from the residual effects that I unconsciously and unintentionally project! But now that I’m more aware, I understand that I am responsible for their safety and well-being! They deserve a better life and they will have a better life! I will kiss and hug them as much as possible everyday! I will use my words to uplift and encourage them and build their confidence! I will teach them how to be financially secure! I will make it safe for them to share their true thoughts, feelings and emotions! I will support them as they explore the world and cultivate their authentic selves! And I will tell them everyday that they are enough just as they are!!!

I’m not going to say I’m going to be a better mother than you because that’s narcissistic. And I no longer want to compare or compete with you! I will just say I will give them the things I feel I needed as a child and I will be there to support them when they struggle!

I love you mom and I’m still working on forgiving you! But I will forgive you and my hope is that we will have a healthy relationship in the future!

On this Mothers Day even though we won’t share it together, I want you to know that you are on my mind and I wish you the best! I am praying for you and us!

Love,

Your First Born

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Reaping What You Sow

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:54:31 GMT

My Abundance plant: Started off a s 7 small lima beans that I planted with each seed representing something that I wanted to manifest in my Abundant Life (Love, peace, happiness, healing, harmony, balance & authenticity). It is one physical representation of abundance in my life. It reminds me to live abundantly!

Reaping What You Sow

Published: January 06, 2015 Category: Harmony

We all heard this old saying before, but have you really sat down and analyzed how true this statement is and how it shows up in your life? I did this recently and this Karmic energy makes so much sense! Whatever seed you plant it will come to fruition and manifest in some way in your life. This proverb seems so simple but so complicated to put into action. If you ever wondered why everything or everyone around you is negative, take time to reflect on what you are putting out in the world and you will understand why you are surrounded by so much negativity. We can not get love, peace or happiness in our life if we keep surrounding ourselves around and planting negative seeds. Negativity does not cultivate love, peace or happiness. In order to cultivate an ABUNDANCE of love, peace and happiness--we must search deep within ourselves and find out what those words truly mean and plant those meanings in our life in order to manifest a lifestyle that produces the fruit that represent what we truly want and deserve!

Whatever you want in life you can have! If you believe it, cultivate it and stay true to it you will achieve it! If you want to have the job of your dreams, first affirm it to be yours, next pray pray pray and mediate, then do the research to see what you need to do to make it happen, next set realistic goals and timeline(start small), and finally sit back and watch your seeds take root and grow. Before you know it you will have a beanstalk in front of you! Using my life as an example, I recently was having a sad moment because I was comparing my life to one of my friends. In order to get myself out of my funk, I decided to write down everything I wanted to accomplish, then I gave myself a timeline. This inspired me to reflect on my life and all the goals and aspirations I made in the past. I had an epiphany; everything that I wanted, asked for or aspired to do I accomplished! I realized that graduating from college with no student loans, traveling the world, starting a business, and being able to stay home with my children were aspirations that I prayed for and worked hard to obtain. This was so enlightening and inspiring that it allow me to fight the funk. My faith has grew tremendously from this!

If you are experiencing a challenging storm right now, just REMEMBER: Everything that you are going through now is preparing you for what your heart truly desires! Ride the wave* and use this time to reflect on your life and the seeds that you planted and what you want to plant. Watch what you ask for (or plant) because it will come true, maybe not in the form that your expect, but expect that every seed you plant will come into fruition (this goes for positive and negative seeds)! Be grateful and claim abundance! I love you all, and I pray that you get everything that your heart desires! I also would love to hear about what you think about this post and where you are in your journey's, so please respond and use the reflection questions as a guideline if you wish!

*Riding the wave is a phrase used in yoga meaning even when a posture or life is challenging, see the posture/life event through and you will see in the end that pain/discomfort is temporary. And when you stay on the wave it will carry you to the shore and you will be a better, stronger and more enlightened person with a lesson learned!

**This also applies to relationships: pay attention to the people you surround yourself with. Are your relationships serving you? Are your relationships toxic (more on toxic relationships in a future post). If you want/need better relationships surround yourself with the people who you want to be around and serve a purpose!

Reflection

• What does "reaping what you sow" mean to you? How do you apply it to your life?

• What seeds do you want to plant?

• What is holding you back from planting and cultivating what you want in life?

• What kind of relationships are you surrounding yourself with?

• Are you riding the wave? If so, how do you maintain during the storm? If not, what are some things you are willing to try to ride the wave?

• What advice do you have for anyone who be may experiencing difficulty in manifesting what they want in their lives?

• How does sowing seeds of positivity manifest harmony and better relationships?

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uni_vs_soul — January 20, 2015

Riding the wave is a concept that I can definitely identify with when it comes to the physical activity of posturing and stance however sometimes I think when applying this to my emotional stance and/or posturing I lose balance when riding the wave because, in a sense, I get caught up in the current. I tend to focus on what needs to take place externally on order for my circumstances to flourish as opposed to what it is that I can do in each moment to stay afloat and on topmost the wave. Definitely am going to try to be more proactive in preparing for and foreseeing waves that may be in route. Do you know of any naturopathic ways to increase focus or emotional stability?

Emotionally Immature Tendencies

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:19:58 GMT

Hello my name is Serenity Rain and I have emotionally immature tendencies. I’m not gonna fully claim emotional immaturity because I’m pretty emotionally mature given my upbringing and circumstances, so I will give myself credit for that...BAM!!!

Emotional Immature Tendencies

Published: November 03, 2018 Category: Balance

For the most part, I’m in tune with my emotions, sometimes too in tuned, my family calls me sensitive and emotionally and for a long time I carried that negative connotation with me and it became a self fulfilling prophecy. However, I’ve learned over the years that being sensitive and emotional is not necessary a bad thing, you just have to be aware of it, accept it and attune it. Thinking of my sensitive nature and emotionality in a negative light seemed to bring out the not so good parts, the ugly expression, the emotional immaturity. Now, at 31 I’m done with that because it no longer serves me. At points in my life my emotional immaturity served as a defense mechanism to protect my ego against the harshness of reality. But, now I know life doesn’t happen to me, I make choices and decisions, both unconscious and conscious.

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7 Steps To A Better YOU

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:16:38 GMT

So we all do it…make New Years Resolutions and then fall of the wheel! We have good intentions when we make them. We want to feel better about ourselves and do better for ourselves and the New Year seems like the perfect time to start. There is nothing like a fresh start in the New Year.

7 Steps to a Better YOU

Published: March 10, 2016 Category: Balance

Unfortunately, even with the best intentions it is a challenge to stick to and accomplish the goals we set. If you fall into this category, don’t worry you are not alone. Research suggests that approximately half of all Americans make New Year's Resolutions yet only 8% actually achieve them (Forbes Magazine, www.forbes.com). So, don’t beat yourself up for not accomplishing your goal last year, continue reading this article for tips that may assist you as you navigate your way towards becoming the better version of yourself!

Why do we have a hard time sticking to our goals?

To understand why we have a hard time sticking to and accomplishing our goals, we first need to look at the life cycle of our New Year’s Resolution or any goal we make, I call this “The Hamster Wheel”.

We struggle in achieving our goals because we go about it the wrong way. Some of the common mistakes that we make when we set goals are: they are too big, we get discourage by failures/setbacks and look at change in a linear fashion. Our biggest mistake is making goals that are way too big and not realistic for us to achieve in the time frame that we give ourselves. Then, we get discouraged when we fail or are set back and we don’t want to continue. Also, change is hard and we look at change in a linear fashion, which is not how change works, change is holistic and we go through cycles.

How can we get off this hamster wheel and actually stick to our goals and become the better version of ourselves that we desire?

At first, I wasn’t sure and this was an enigma that I personally was challenged by; but through research I found some ways to help people like us, who desperately want to change but have trouble with staying focused and committed. Through all of my research, I was able to compile a list of 7 simple steps to apply to assist. I will be applying these steps on my journey to become a better me and my hope is that these steps also help you on your better you journey as well.

1. Create Alternatives: Don't just try to eradicate something completely from your life, gradually wean yourself by finding alternatives to replace an old habit with a good habit. For example, if you are trying to lose weight and you want to stop eating cake, don't just prevent yourself from eating cake completely because when you are overly tempted to eat cake you will binge and start the downward cycle of letting go of your goal. Instead, slowly replace cake with something healthier that satisfies the same sweetness of cake. Instead of regular white flour cake, try vegan cake or a smoothie or a banana with peanut butter and honey. Your body and mind will be happy.

2. Be SMART: Most people fail at accomplishing their goals because their goals are poorly defined. Here is how to be Smart and set SMART goals.

• Specific: the goal should clearly outline the action that you’re going to take rather than the end result that you want. If you want to become a yogi, saying “I want to practice yoga more often” is too broad, but saying “I will practice yoga 1-3 times a week” is more specific.

• Measurable: set goals that can be measured over time so that you are able to track your progress. For example, if you want to stop smoking, your goal could be to limit yourself to 2 cigarettes a day instead of 3 and then to 1 cigarette instead of 2 and keep track of your progress. When you start to see that you are making progress it will encourage you to keep going.

• Achievable: Don’t overdue trying to change or do too many things at once. Limit your list to 1-3 bigger goals (Lose Weight, Have a positive Attitude, get a new job) and then break those down into smaller goals. For example, if you want to lose 50lbs, then you can break that down into smaller monthly goals: 10lbs per month over 5 months or 5lbs per month over 10 months.

• Relevant: make it something you really want; that fits into your values; not what you think others want or what others have expressed they want for you. Don’t get organized because you are trying to compete with a friend, get organized because you want to have a clutter free space, if that is important to you.

• Time-Bound: Set specific timeframes and put it in your schedule/calendar (get an organizer/calendar, or use your phone and/or computer calendar and make sure they are sync). If you want to learn something new, schedule time in your daily/weekly/monthly schedule to work towards that goal and set a deadline for yourself. I aim to practice my new skill 15 minutes a day until it becomes a habit.

3. Write it down: Write down the goal and visualize it regularly. According to Stephen Covey, author of "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", writing and visualizing are effective tools for fulfilling a goal because they fix it firmly in the subconscious. Similar to affirmations, write your goals down on post-it notes and place them in places in the house you visit daily, like the bathroom mirror, the refrigerator door, the front door, the mirror in your room. Or make it your computer and/or phone screen saver.

4. It takes a village: Even though you may want to bare the grunt of your transformation alone, it’s tough without support. Having someone support you and hold you accountable can be a powerful tool. Making a public commitment adds motivation. Ideally, you need 2 people: 1 person to be your coach (tough love) and 1 person to be your cheerleader (empathy/compassion); sometimes you are blessed to have 2 different people, sometimes 1 person can be both, sometimes you have just one and that’s ok, but if you don’t have 1 supportive ally, then you might need to change your resolution to finding a support system, because we all need one. So, reach out to those who are close to you, join a support group, start to network and build a support group of people who embody the coach and cheerleader characteristics.

5. Be Patient & Forgive yourself: Remember that you are human and built to be imperfect. There will come a time in your betterment journey that you will be tempted to resort back to old ways and there will come a time where that temptation is so strong that you give in. Forgive yourself and be patient, Egypt was not built in day, greatness takes time. Progress is never linear, some people will see rapid gains only to hit resistance later in their efforts and others initial progress may be painfully slow but then they suddenly achieve rapid breakthroughs. Making lasting change takes time. Don’t beat yourself up, we all endure those rollercoasters and what you do when you fall is not give up or in but dust yourself off, give yourself a big hug, encourage yourself, call your accountability partner and get back on the horse.

6. March to your own beat: You don’t have to start on New Year’s, set your own date. The great thing about being free to choose and decide, is that you are free to choose and decide whenever you want your betterment journey to start. You can have it start on New Year’s, or you can wait for your Bday, or you can wait until an important date in your life. When you freely choose the date in which you start, that date has significance and you are more motivated and inspired to change.

7. Reward yourself: Because your goals are measureable you are able to track your progress. In addition, to tracking you need to reward your progress (Psychology Today, www.psychologytoday.com). Treat yourself, you deserve it, you have been working hard. Make sure your reward is in alignment with your betterment journey not sabotaging it. Your reward should not be to indulge in whatever the bad habit that you are trying to improve, so don’t reward yourself with cake loaded with sugar and carbs when you are trying to lose weight, instead treat yourself to a pedicure, a movie, a new workout outfit or fitness tennis shoes.

In conclusion, having goals are important! According to Psychology Today, “when people have goals to guide them, they are happier and achieve more than they would without having them. Achieving a goal produces dopamine, a neurotransmitter responsible for feelings of pleasure. The dopamine also activates neural circuity that makes you eager to pursue new challenges” (Psychology Today, www.psychologytoday.com). So, having goals and achieving them can improve your health and well-being. Set those goals and take it one step at a time, before you know it you will be that better version of yourself! I wish you all the best in your better you journey! Peace, Love & Happiness! Namaste! ©

References/Sources:

Psychology Today-www.psychologytoday.com

Forbes Magazine-www.forbes.com

Statistic Brain Research Institute-www.statisticebrain.com

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March To End Premature Birth

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:13:05 GMT

Right now, babies need all the help they can get. Premature birth affects about 380,000 babies here in the United States.

March To End Premature Birth

Published: May 07, 2016 Category: Mommy Confessions

Why I walk.

I'm walking because we had 2 premature babies and thanks to the advancement of technology and the TLC of the George Washington University Hospital NICU we have 2 healthy babies. Our 2nd born son was extremely premature, he was born 22 weeks and 6 days gestation, weighing only 465 grams, just barely a pound and he had to stay in the NICU for 4 months. Our baby girl was born at 33 weeks and 3 days gestation and she had to stay in the NICU for a week! Both times were trying times for us! We had 2 success stories and we are truly blessed! She we walk to support the cause and because we are so thankful!

We are walking in March for Babies to get the message out about this terrible problem and you can help. Please make a secure donation to help me reach my goal. Together we can help the March of Dimes fight prematurity so more babies can get the strongest start possible.
#teambridgersbunch

If you want to walk with us or donate to the cause please click here: Babies Rock

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Terrible 2s My Derriere

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:08:50 GMT

Dear Toddler Behavioral Specialists,

I need help!!!!

Who coined the term terrible 2's anyway? They were wrong! The terribleness as they describe it comes way before 2 (usually starts around 12-15 months) and lasts way past 2 (it may never end…lol)!

Terrible 2's my derriere

Published: February 12, 2015 Category: Mommy Confessions

Here is my toddler trouble story:

So, my lovely 3 1/2 year old son, let it be known today that the terribleness that they talk about when it comes to 2 year olds has nothing on the what's to come in the coming years. Lately, his father has been concerned about his behavior and I brushed it off as just growing pains and having a new sibling. Since, he has been doing extremely well at school (I only get good comments about him from his teacher) his behavior was not a major concern for me. Not until today…lol! He threw the biggest tantrum ever and then had the nerve to pee on himself on the bathroom floor, with his pants down while standing next to the toilet (shaking my head and pulling my hair out while screaming). And his reasoning for peeing on himself was because he did not want to wear the sweater I picked out for him. Are you serious?

I almost had a mental breakdown this morning. Everything was going great. I woke up early before the kids and was able to sneak out the room without them waking up (usually I can't get out of bed without them waking up). My plan was to do some morning yoga, but I decided to have some quiet time and pray instead. After my thankful prayer and mirror affirmations, I was feeling awesome and ready to conquer the world. I cut up an apple for my oldest and boiled some carrots to puree for my youngest. I woke my oldest up so that he could eat his breakfast and started breastfeeding my youngest. Then, I asked my oldest to put on his clothes, he complied up until he had to put on a sweater that he didn’t want to wear (I didn’t know 3 1/2 year olds had fashion sense or cared about clothes…I was gonna learn today (in my Kevin Hart daddy voice…lol)).

"I don’t want to wear that sweater mommy. I want to wear the black and white jacket I had on yesterday", whined my son. "You can't wear the black and white jacket today because you wore it yesterday but you can wear it tomorrow", I replied. I thought that was the perfect negotiation, but oh no, not for Mr. Three and a half year old!

After, telling him numerous times to put the sweater on and him ignoring me, my patience was growing thin. I told him that if he didn’t put the sweater on he was going to get a spanking. I counted to 3 at least three times and still no response or movement from him. He was in strike mode and unwilling to negotiate. So, I did something I hate doing I disciplined him by spanking him. (Side note: I feel really bad about spanking, I tried other ways like talking and time out and it does not seem to work for him, I am especially against spanking since that is what my parents did to discipline me, and its connection to slavery but more on that in the post "To spank or not to Spank…", but I felt like I had no other option. After spanking him, I left him in the bathroom for a minute to let him calm down and I went to soothe my youngest son. When I came back to check on him, he had pulled his pants down and peed right on the bathroom floor (OMG…are you serious, this is not my life)!!! My first reaction was to laugh. I tried to laugh to prevent me from getting so upset that I would spank him, but to no avail I was so angry and I spanked him again. (Side note: I especially hate spanking when I'm mad.) After, that spanking I called my fiancé (baby daddy), he didn’t answer, so I called my mother. She advised me to tell him to clean the mess up and keep him home to discipline him.

Then, I did what every respectable and intelligent parent does--I googled "3 year old peeing when angry on purpose". And to my surprise and temporary relief, there were so many parents dealing with the same issue. I read a couple of responses and got some reassurance that other parents are in the same boat as me. Then, I got overwhelmed, because there was no real responses from professionals that gave answers to why this phenomenon was happening. With my psychology and social work background, I then thought to look up play therapy. But now my question is: Should I conduct play therapy with my son myself or get professional help? Stay tuned, I will keep you posted on what I decided to do and my results!

Sincerely,

Desperate and Overwhelmed momma in need of respite

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I Suck Pacifiers...

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:04:17 GMT

So, I love those LUVS commercials juxtaposing how a mother handles situations differently with her 1st and 2nd child (the video is below if you are unfamiliar or if you want a quick laugh).

I suck pacifiers...

Published: June 10, 2014 Category: Mommy Confessions

With your first child hand sanitizer is your best friend, you sterilize everything, and you wash new clothes. With your second child you are more lax because you realize that motherhood is not that serious and doing all that extra stuff for the first child was exhausting. But, this article I found about the best way to clean pacifiers blew my mind! I was doing a search on schools for my 3 year old son and I came across this article about the benefits of cleaning your child's pacifier with your saliva. My eyes got so big and I was like "WHHHHAAATTT"! I was always the mother who rinsed off pacifiers with water if it dropped on the floor (with my 1st son I actually did the sterilization and throwing away pacifiers if they fell, not so much with the 2nd one).

So, I decided to do more research to see what other people are saying and I found out that this parental pacifier sucking/saliva cleaning is legit. Studies show that parents who use their saliva to clean their kids pacifiers are protecting their child from asthma, allergies and eczema. This saliva cleaning practice exposes babies to bacteria early on that can strengthen their immune system. YES!!! What a relief, now I can finally get off my fiance's back about sucking our son's pacifiers to clean it (this is one pet peeve I am glad to get rid of). In fact, I found myself engaging in saliva cleaning for pacifiers and bottles...lol! Isn't such a relief for us moms and dads who go to the extremes to protect their children from germs. And for the moms and dads who have been sucking all along, give yourself a big pat on the back, you are the best immune boosters around!

So the moral of the story: Don't immunize, just suck it!!! Just kidding, if you still want to immunize that is up to your discretion and that is a topic that I will write about in another post.

Now, of course there are exceptions: you should not clean your babies' pacifier with your saliva if you have an illness, STD, or halitosis (there is no research that directly says that parents with halitosis are banned from sucking their kids' pacifiers, but I think it should be...lol...who wants to taste bad breath...yuck).

For more information, here are some links:

http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/05/06/whhy-dirty-pacifiers-may-be-your-childs-friend/?_php=true&_type=blogs&_r=0 (summarized version of the research for those parents in the "having young children" struggle and don't have time to do anything outside of parenting...lol)

http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2013/04/30/peds.2012-3345.abstract (extensive version for those parents who may have older children and have time, for which this article may not even matter...lol)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evLRIJ7Fqf4

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Medicine VS Natural

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:00:16 GMT

So, this is the enigma I have been wrestling with, should I take prescription medicine for my battle with depression and anxiety or shall I forgo the induced numb state and continue to deal with my ailments the holistic natural way.

Medicine VS Natural

Published: September 21, 2016 Category: Healing

Of course, I prefer to do the latter but lately, I feel the depression and anxiety is taking over, it has gotten worse due to many factors. Factors such as being a Stay-at-home-mom, transitioning to becoming a working mom, being a mom of 3, trying to be a good mom, not being sure of myself, my relationship with my partner, deciding to put school on hold again, my unhealthy relationship with my parents and siblings, lack of family support, my PTSD, the remnants of growing up in a dysfunctional household, being raised by a narcissistic mother and being abandoned by my biological father.

I wake up almost every morning with anxiety manifested mentally by racing thoughts and physically by butterflies in my stomach. And I battle with bouts of depression throughout the day. I take vitamins, do my affirmations, readings, yoga, prayer and meditation, which all work when I'm consistent, but it's challenging to be consistent when life is so stressful and overwhelming. I understand that my anxiety and depression is at it's climax because of the grieving process I'm going though and I am finally deciding to stop living in the fog. This journey is not really supported by those who continue to live in the fog, which once you try to escape it, you realize how many people in your life and around you actually live in the fog.

Sometimes it feels as it will just be easier to just pop some pills and live in the fog, ignorance is bliss right? WRONG, living in blissful ignorance is a temporary, and it's just a façade. No one lives blissfully in ignorance. The older you get the more you have to do in order to avoid reality and maintain that pseudo-blissful state. You either have to medicate, distract yourself with addictions and/or build up a host of defense mechanism (the main one is denial), in order to placate this form of bliss. So, is it really Bliss?

Taking prescription meds may create some immediate temporary relief from my ailments, but ultimately, it's like putting a Band-Aid over a deep open wound and broken bone. Prescription meds provide temporary relief to the symptoms of depression and anxiety, but doesn’t cure it. The only way to truly cure depression and anxiety is to deal with the root cause. The Healing process can be long, painful and arduous, but it's worth it. It takes patience and persistence, life skills that are not really taught and nurtured in a fast-paced microwave effect society. In order to truly heal, we have to learn how to tolerate emotional pain without trying to medicate it away. We have to take it "One day at a Time".

Yesterday I was thinking about talking to my doctor about prescribing medicine but today I'm choosing to continue my healing journey the natural way. I truly want to heal and to help others heal!

*Side Note: I don’t judge anyone who prefers to use medicine. And I'm open to having a conversation with both those who choose to take medication and those who don't. Another part of the healing process is talking about it, so we don’t feel isolated and alone. Having Depression and Anxiety or any other mental illnesses is not our fault and we shouldn’t have to deal with it in isolation.

Update to this post originally published on 9/21/16 @ 12:11pm. Its now 4/18/19, almost 3 years later and I have some new insight because my depression got to the point where I was struggling to get up every morning and I was losing interest in connecting with my children and I knew something had to give. So, I decided to talk to my therapist about talking medications temporarily until I get out of this funk. She reassured me that she understood my many reasons for not wanting to take medication and she supports me in whatever decision I choose. She suggested that I talk to my PCP more about what type of medication would be suitable for me and that I do my own research and take ownership of my health. So, I talked cried to my doctor and told her why I think I needed medication and all my fears surrounding taking medication. I feared that I would... get addicted...be considered a sell out to the naturopathic community...be judged...not be myself...and the idea of putting a foreign manufactured substance in my body frightened me most of all! She listened and I felt heard. She told me that its ok, and I am doing the right thing for me right now and the fact that I have those concerns, she feels confident that I would be able to stop using the medication whenever I felt necessary. She prescribed me the SSRI antidepressant Sertraline which is an less expensive version of Zoloft (I will talk more about different types of medications in another post). She told me that it will take up to 4-6 weeks to be effective, that it is not addictive and I may have some mild side effects like dry mouth, diarrhea and vomiting (which is another one of my fears!!!). She also reiterated that I can stop using it whenever I feel ready. I took the script, filled the script and looked at the bottle of pills for 3 days before I decided to take my first dose.

I decided to only take the medication for 6 months: 3 of those months with the full dose (which was actually half of a pill for me), then the other 3 months, I started to feel better and more in control of my emotions and started to wean myself off to just half a pill every other day, to eventually nothing at all. At first I was totally against medication for myself, but it did help me get out of that dark place and refocus on the things that were important. I will reiterate that it only temporarily placated the surface symptoms by making me feel calmer aka high, so I would still have racing thoughts but the thoughts didn't bother me and I was able to smile and laugh more because stuff didn't bother me. The downside were the side effects, the dry mouth and diarrhea were a little annoying but tolerable, and subsided for the most part when I decrease my dosage. Honestly, on the upside the dry mouth forced me to drink more water and the diarrhea helped me to get rid of toxins in my body, so though it was very annoying, it was also helping me in a since. In the first week, I was talking a 25mg dose, which was the lowest dosage, but I felt too high, so I sought advice and I was advised to cut my pills in half, and once I did that I was a tolerable high, my mouth wasn't as dry and the diarrhea wasn't as bad either. At the end of those 6 months I was proud of myself to be able to wean myself off the medication. I keep a bottle of the medication to remind me of my journey and my strength and my ability to take control of my health!!!

In conclusion, I would say, if you are battling with depression, anxiety or any type of mental health issue, seek help. Mental health is just as important as physical health!!! It's ok to get help and find help that truly supports your healing journey, if you feel forced to do something you don't want to do then maybe that's not the right journey for you. But, you also have to have discernment, you have to know how to decipher between something that may not feel comfortable but may be in your best interest, like you may not want to be admitted to a hospital for treatment, but if you are causing or contemplating harm to yourself or others then you need the extra support trained professionals are equipped to give. Most importantly, don't let the mental illness define you, you are not the mental illness, and the mental illness is not all you are...you are someone struggling with, dealing with, and/or managing an illness that should be taken as serious as cancer and treated with the same respect, support and empathy as someone with cancer!

Mental illness may not be seen, but it's real. As someone who both deals with mental illness and helps other deal with their mental illness, I know how real it is. (I will talk more about this in another post)!

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From Victim to Victor

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 17:53:03 GMT

"I hate my mother! I hate my biological father! I hate all those who have wronged me! I hate the world! I hate GOD! I hate myself! Why Me?"

From Victim to Victor

Published: March 09, 2016 Category: Healing

For years the statements above were my life story. It is what I told myself over and over again and only created more anger, resentment and rage inside of me. I was a victim to my own self sabotage, holding myself captive, pleading to anyone who would listen to save me. At first, I thought I was asking for saving from my horrible parents and life, but in retrospect I know now I needed saving from myself. I understand now that though what my parents did, others did and what happened to me was wrong, I was not letting go and I was allowing myself to constantly be hurt by the past. I kept pulling off the bandages and scabs and not allowing my wounds to heal.

Now, my wounds are healing are yes some may leave ugly scars but I am learning now to accept them. They are a part of my story but in a more positive way. They are the reason why I am who I am and why I am so passionate about my purpose and vision. I know why the caged bird sings…because it longs to be free/because nobody can take singing away from it/ because it does it so well. When I hear stories of resilience and perseverance like Maya Angelo, Oprah and Angela Davis just to name a few, I am so inspired! These woman turned their hate, hurt, wounds, scars into passion. They inspire me to do the same. I turned my hate, hurt, wounds and scars into something positive---I want to motivate and inspire others to find passion in their pain. I want to help others persevere and strengthen their resilient bones and overcome their obstacles and fears and pursue their passions and dreams.

This is what Serenity Reigns is all about, its not just a blog or natural health products, it’s a movement! A movement to inspire all who want to join this journey to move from being victims into Victors!

Are you down with the movement? Share your Victim or Victor story! Even if you have not reached a full victory yet share your healing journey! It is therapeutic, cathartic and and healing for you and others!

Namaste

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Shanele — August 18, 2016

I love that you have this blog. Wish you wrote more and trust i understand the commitment it takes and i have not even begin to think about attempting to blig but its healing. I follow alot of women in hopes of having my own victory and learning to accept those wounds as a part of what has made me who I am today. This is like my virtual sister circle. ❤ you. Peace

Serenity Rain — August 19, 2016

Awww sis, thank you for your kind words!!! I write a lot I just need to post more, but the way my life is set up...lol...it makes it difficult to post as much as I would like! I am also extra critical of myself, so I overly critique my posts before I upload them, which I'm learning to do less of because this is what this journey is about, being my authentic self flaws, typos and all!!! Thank you thank you thank you for your comment, and I look forward to connecting with you! Welcome to Serentiy Reigns, I pray that your exploration is peaceful, uplifting and healing!!! Namaste

Don't Be S.A.D. This Winter...Beat the Winter Blues

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 17:45:30 GMT

It's that time of the year again, where the weather is changing, it’s colder and the sun in shinning less frequently. For some the weather is not the only thing that is changing during this time of the year, some people also experience a dramatic change in their mood.

Don't Be S.A.D. this Winter...Beat the Winter Blues

Published: January 20, 2016 Category: Healing

Don't Be S.A.D this Winter...

If you notice that you feel sadness, depression, lethargy and a loss in interest in fun activities during a particular time of the year, every year, you may be dealing with Seasonal Affective Disorder aka SAD aka "Winter Blues". According to the Mayo Foundation for Medical Education and Research, SAD is a type of depression that comes and goes based on the seasons. It is very common in the United States, there are more than 3 million occurrences per year. The specific causes of SAD is unknown but some factors that may come into play include:

• Biological clock/Circadian Rhythm- The reduced level of sunlight in the fall and winter may disrupt your body's internal clock and lead to feelings of depression.

• Serotonin levels- a drop in serotonin (a brain chemical/neurotransmitter that affects mood) can happen when there is a drop in sunlight exposure.

• Melatonin levels- the change in season can disrupt the balance of the body's level of melatonin, which plays a vital role in sleep patterns and mood.

• Sex/Gender- SAD is diagnosed more often in women than in men, but men may have more severe symptoms.

• Age- young people have a higher risk of SAD and it occurs less likely in older adults.

• Family history- SAD or another form of depression may run in families.

• Environment- living farther from the equator or in places with less sunlight can contribute to the onset of SAD.

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder usually begin October or November and subside in March or April. Majority of SAD occurs in the Winter months when there is less light, but there are also occurrences of Summer SAD, which has some different symptoms.

Here are some of the symptoms of SAD. Please review this list and check those that apply to you.

• Notice of a change in mood during a certain time of the year

• Feeling Depressed most of the day, nearly everyday

• Feeling hopeless or worthless

• Having low energy

• Losing interest in activities you once enjoyed

• Having problems sleeping

• Experiencing changes in your appetite or weight

• Feeling sluggish or agitated

• Having difficulty concentrating

• Having frequent thoughts of death or suicide

Here is a brief comparison of the differences in symptoms between Fall/Winter & Spring/Summer SAD:

Fall/Winter SAD

Spring/Summer SAD

Irritability

Anxiety

Tiredness or low energy

Problems getting along with other people

Hypersensitivity to rejection

Oversleeping

Appetite changes, especially a craving for foods high in carbohydrates

Weight gain

Trouble Sleeping (insomnia)

Weight Loss

Poor appetite

Agitation

Anxiety

It's normal to have some days when you feel down, but if you check more than 3 symptoms and experience them for more than 2 weeks, then you may be dealing with Seasonal Affective Disorder. Don't be afraid or get overwhelmed, there is help. Below are some options for you to develop a treatment plan and take control of your SAD.

1. See your doctor (either you PCP or mental health specialist)- the doctor can test your hormone levels and run other test to check to see if your issue is more serious. Here are some questions you can ask your doctor:

• What treatment is best for me?

• What changes can I make at home to help myself?

• Should/How can I make any changes to my diet?

2. Cognitive Behavioral/Talk therapy (CBT)- CBT has shown to be effective on the immediate and long-term effects of SAD. CBT focuses on helping the client to develop skills to improve coping with seasonal changes and moods. The therapist works with the patient to foster behavioral (doing) skills and cognitive (thinking) skills, which help to be proactive before the onset of SAD.

3. Alternative medicine/supplements (always consult a physician/herbalist/naturopath before moving forward with these remedies because some may not be appropriate for your individual situation (i.e. if you are taking medication, pregnant/breastfeeding, or have any other medical issues).

• Vitamin D3- one of the causes of SAD may be a lack of Vitamin D3, which is produced in the skin in response to sunlight. Taking 2000IU of Vitamin D3 daily can make significant improvements in seasonal depression.

• B-complex vitamins (B2, B6, B12 & folic acid)- vitamin B complex deficiencies can lead to mood disorders and depression and if you are not getting adequate amount of B vitamins from your diet, a B-complex supplement will help. The best way to get these vitamins is through foods like fish, beans, dark green leafy vegetables, and fortified cereals, but if you can’t get an adequate amount of these food then a supplement is recommended.

• Omega-3 fatty acid (fish oil)- a supplement that is plentiful in fish oils not only reduce the risk of heart attacks and ease the pain of arthritis, it is also shown to help with mood swings.

• 5-HTP- an amino acid that works in the brain and central nervous system by increasing the production of the chemical serotonin. Numerous studies have shown that 5-HTP to be as or more effective than many prescription antidepressants. (this should not be taken in conjunction with a SSRI drug)

• Lemon Balm- an herb that has a positive effect on the brain, helping to ease sadness and depression, calm mania and hysteria, enhance sleep and aid memory and concentration.

• Eleuthero (Siberian ginseng)- an adaptogenic herb that helps to balance the body and support energy. It helps the body cope better with stress; it also increases stamina and endurance and stimulates the brain to improve concentration.

• St. John's wort- a herb that aids in alleviating depression, anxiety, tiredness, loss of appetite and trouble sleeping.

• SAMe-is a chemical that is found naturally in the body and can also be made in the laboratory; it can be beneficial in helping with alleviating the symptoms of depression, anxiety, PMS, Osteoarthritis and other conditions.

• Melatonin- a natural hormone made by the body's pineal gland; it regulates your sleep patterns by sending signals to your body to sleep. You can take Melatonin, if your body is not producing enough and you are suffering from insomnia, it will help you sleep.

4. Mind/body therapies- acupuncture, yoga, meditation, guided imagery, massage therapy

5. Light Therapy- According to the American Psychological Association (APA), the most widely used treatment for SAD is light therapy, which is daily exposure to bright artificial light. Though light therapy devices are readily available for purchase without a prescription, it is advised to participate in the process under the supervision of your doctor/mental health provider.

6. Lifestyle Changes- changing what you eat and incorporating exercise into your daily routine can have a significant impact on your mood. Eating meals with lots of natural fruits and vegetables and healthy proteins and fats helps your body function properly. Also, walking or even doing 10-30 minute mild exercise like yoga, cardio, dancing, cleaning, etc can help your body detox, metabolize and produce feel good hormones.

7. Surround yourself with good energy- when you feel the SAD symptoms coming on, be proactive and surround yourself by the family members and friends that make you laugh. When you start feeling SAD you may want to be alone, challenge yourself to do the opposite by being social.

In light of all the information above, if you or someone you know has SAD please be proactive in creating a treatment plan that caters to your needs. My hope is that this article reaches and helps someone who either is suffering from SAD or knows someone who might be. Mental Health is vital, and too often people dismiss it because they see it as not important or that having a mental disorder/illness/issue as a weakness. We have to change how we think about mental health and start being more proactive to alleviate the plague of mental disorders in our community. Seeking help is not a weakness, it shows strength and that you care about yourself!

So, love yourself enough to heal yourself!
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Green Thumbs Up! Benefits of Gardening

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 17:40:25 GMT

The Beginnings of my Garden

So, I was getting my weekly fix of "Orange is the New Black" and I got some interesting information: Gardening is good for your mental health!

Green Thumbs Up! Benefits of Gardening

Published: August 14, 2014 Category: Healing

I thought to myself, "see you can learn something from drama tv…lol!", but I will save that discussion for another post. I know you may be thinking, "ok, what is the connection between gardening and mental health, and why should I use my valuable time to keep reading?"

Well, I just recently started a garden at the local community center and I am so in love with it! I never thought I would actually love getting my hands dirty, but it is one of the best feelings in the world to have your hands immersed in soil and compost and to actually to see the fruits of your labor. I was inspired to start the garden as part of my healing journey --I want to know EVERYTHING I am putting on and in my body! So what better way to know then to grow your own food and herbs. Starting a garden has been on my bucket list for years. So, when I found out that the community center was starting a community garden I was all on board!

Just to give you a little history about my mental health: I suffer from depression, anxiety and emotional trauma. I had a wonderful childhood, horrible adolescence and been spending most of my twenties figuring out this enigma called my life. I have been dealing with the pain that I repressed during my adolescence all through my twenties. I believe my depression really started to manifest when I was in college, but it became a problem when I was pregnant with my first son. In high school, I started writing poetry to release my pain; In college, I made myself really really really busy to avoid my life woes; when I was pregnant with my son I had no choice but to deal with my raging emotions. I do not believe in taking prescriptions for something I know I can heal holistically and naturally, so I have been learning so much about the organic way. Who would have known that my interest in gardening would turn into a cure for my depression? Reflecting on how I feel when I'm gardening, I do feel more relaxed and have a greater sense of purpose. I was so ecstatic when my first seedlings peeked their way through the soil. Now, everyday I look forward to spending at least an hour in the garden.

Studies actually show that gardening can improve your mental and physical health! Here are a few of those findings:

• Mycobacterium Vaccae, which is a harmless bacteria commonly found in soil, has shown to increase the release and metabolism of serotonin in parts of the brain that control cognitive function and mood -- much like serotonin-boosting antidepressant drugs do (CNN).

• Being in natural places fosters recovery from mental fatigue, improves outlook and life satisfaction, helps us to cope with and recover from stress, improves our ability to recover from illness and injury, restores concentration, and improves productivity (Gardening Matters).

• Simply viewing plants has been shown to reduce fear, anger, blood pressure, and muscle tension (Gardening Matters).

• Gardens require physical exertion, provide relief from stress and engender creativity, participation with nature and a sense of stewardship for the land. Individuals reap direct benefits from the physical activity involved in gardening and having access to fresh, cheap produce on a daily basis (Designing Healthy Communities).

• Psychologically there is satisfaction that comes from the joy of a successful harvest (Designing Healthy Communities).

• Gardeners report decreased stress as well as “the feeling of a spiritual connection with ‘Mother Earth’ ” (Designing Healthy Communities).

The presence of community gardens also have a positive impact on the community:

• SOCIAL CAPITAL: In addition to the physical and psychological health benefits outlined above, the community gardens are seen as a social, caring place contributing to a greater sense of belonging and a catalyst for friendship formation (Designing Health Communities).

• ECONOMY: Gardening can help the local food markets, which may become a necessity due to the escalating fuel costs and the need for greater nutrition. Get into your backyard and develop a greater consciousness of the world in which we live (How stuff works).

• CRIME PREVENTION: Scientific studies show that crime decreases in neighborhoods as the amount of green space increases, and that vegetation has been seen to alleviate mental fatigue, one of the precursors to violent behavior (Gardening Matters).

• ENVIRONMENTAL: Environmental benefits of community gardens include increasing pervious surfaces and allowing for groundwater recharge, improving air quality through the addition of plants to the landscape, beautifying the environment and promoting sustainability (Together for Health).

So, what are you waiting for, go start your garden (or whatever you been wanting to start and putting it off). You can even start small with just one house plant and watch your garden grow!

References/Additional Information

Designing Health Communities: http://designinghealthycommunities.org/role-community-gardens-sustaining-healthy-communities/

CNN: http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/07/08/why.gardening.good/

CDC: http://www.cdc.gov/healthyplaces/healthtopics/healthyfood/community.htm

How Stuff Works: http://health.howstuffworks.com/wellness/food-nutrition/facts/health-benefits-of-a-garden.htm

Together 4 Health: http://www.together4health.ca/workgroups/benefits-community-gardens

Gardening Matters: http://www.gardeningmatters.org/sites/default/files/Multiple%20Benefits_2012.pdf

Health Benefits of Urban Agriculture:: http://www.co.fresno.ca.us/uploadedFiles/Departments/Behavioral_Health/MHSA/Health%20Benefits%20of%20Urban%20Agriculture%20(1-8).pdf

Comments

uni_vs_soul — January 20, 2015

Would love to see more pictures of your garden! How was the harvest?

Serenity Rain — February 05, 2015

Unfortunately, I waited too late to harvest, so I didn't get much produce from my garden except some great tasting green beans. I really really enjoyed the experience though and I look forward to the next growing season (that is of course if I'm not on bed rest...lol). Currently, I'm growing a garden in my womb!!!

Every Mommy Needs A Survival Kit

Sun, 08 Mar 2026 04:54:51 GMT

Every Mommy Needs A Survival Kit

In doing one of my endless midnight Pintrest/Google searches, that seem like being sucked into a black hole, I found this great idea for my best friend who is expecting her first child. She already got everything that she needed for the baby, so I was excited to have fun with the gift that I gave her. So I made….

Drum roll Please….

A new mommy survival kit!!!

While making her gift I realized that I needed this kit myself and I’m sure many moms would appreciate this survival kit. In the Survival Kit are several objects that remind you of something important, here is what I put in her bag which I believe are the 7 most essential items.

(Disclaimer: these items are meant to be kept as reminders, like to put on an altar or sacred space away from the children, someone in the house where you will see it everyday, or in a sandwich baggie to carry in your bag. But some of these items may serve dual purposes and come in handy, especially if you carry it around with you!)

Rubber band – to remind you that flexibility is key and to stretch to new limits. Motherhood requires flexibility because our lives with our little boogers can be unpredictable. It can also double as a hair tie for you or the kids hair when you are out and about you need to get your hair out of your face.
Toothpicks – to remind you to pick out the good moments in every day. It can also be useful when you have something in your teeth.
Eraser- to remind you that every mom makes mistakes. Also, comes in handy when helping with homework and your child lost all the other erasers.
Tissue – to wipe away you and the baby’s/child’s tears. Having a pack of tissue on hand is always a great idea because someone nose is always running, something is always being spilt, and faces and hands always get dirty and needs to be wiped and sometimes you either forget the baby wipes or you run out and you need a backup.
Puzzle Piece – to remind you that you are an important piece in your child’s life and journey. Also, could be used as a way to keep the little one busy by letting them trace it, pretend that it’s a horse or other animal, or when all else fails use it as a chew toy…lol…(just kidding about the last one unless it’s a chewable/edible puzzle piece!)
Lifesavers – for one of those days when you just had enough, you forgot to brush your teeth, you forgot to eat and need a quick snack, and/or the kids are winning so you give them one so you can have some silence. (notice how I intentionally typed and/or because all these things can happen simultaneously…smdh)
Bath Salts – to remind you that you are important too and self-care in vital, so go take a hot bath and rub this salts all over your achy body and you will feel refreshed afterwards.

Other items that could be included:

Aromatherapy Candle or Oil – to go along with the bath salts and that nice bath you are about in indulge in. Lavender is the perfect scent for a relaxing bath. If you need a pick me up then use citrus or lemongrass. If you have a headache then peppermint will be your best friend.
Lotion – to help soften the rough patches
Hershey Kisses – for you and the baby, you both deserve them
Paper Clip – to hold things together when they seem disorganized
Bandage – to help fix hurt feelings
Match – to light your fire when you feel burnt out
Earplugs – to help when you can’t hear
Gum – to remind you to stick with and you can accomplish anything!
Marbles – to replace the ones you will lose!
Battery – to keep you going and going and going and going and going and going…
String – to tie things together when everything is falling apart
A shot glass – after a long day and the kiddies are sleeping and all else fails and you have and need a quick relief
Washcloths – to help you wash your problems away! Only if it was that simple, I would hoard washcloths…but then that would make me a washcloth hoarder, which is a problem within itself…then my family will leave me in the house with my washcloths because there is no room for them to sleep…then I will lose the cat that I never had who somehow mysteriously got into my house and got buried under all those damn washcloths…then I will be on TLC extreme hoarding…then all my business will be aired for the whole world to see…then I will be kinda famous…wait wait wait this just got out of hand…lol….hoarding washcloths to wash away my problems seems counterproductive!!! I will just keep one washcloth on my altar and one in my sandwich baggie survival travel kit.

13 things to EAT EVERYDAY

Thu, 18 Apr 2019 23:18:57 GMT

Apples are not the only food you should eat a day to keep the doctor away. Eat these 13 foods everyday and your body, mind and gut with love you!!!

Avocados ~ are a fun food to eat, they’re nutritious, and they’re a good source of monounsaturated fat, which can reduce your risk of heart disease. LDL (or “bad”) cholesterol can lower when replacing the saturated fat with one avocado a day. They can be added to smoothies in the morning, spreaded on toast in the afternoon, or added to a salad for dinner. Learn more at: https://utswmed.org/medblog/avocado-a-day/)

Bananas ~ help you reach your weight-loss goals, keep your bowels healthy, provide nutrients that regulate heart rhythm and have vitamin compounds for eye health. A naturally sweet and versatile treat, that can be added to smoothies, frozen for a banana Popsicle or just grab and go. Learn more at: http://healthyeating.sfgate.com/health-benefits-one-banana-day-3316.html

Blueberries ~ packed with huge health benefits in a tiny package! They are mostly known for their high antioxidant benefit. They are have a phytonutrient in them called anthocyanins that not only have antioxidant benefits but give blueberries their blue pigment. Eating blueberries regularly helps fend off heart disease, cancer and brain aging. Learn more at: https://foodrevolution.org/blog/are-blueberries-good-for-you/

Chia Seeds ~ these tiny seeds pack a powerful punch and are among the healthiest foods on the planet. They’re loaded with nutrients that can have important benefits for your body and brain. They're packed with fiber and deliver a massive amount of nutrients and antioxidants with very few calories. Learn more at: https://www.healthline.com/

nutrition/11-proven-health-benefits-of-chia-seeds#section1

Coconut Oil ~ A tablespoon or 2 of coconut oil a day goes a long way. Coconut oil can help with weight lose, boost your energy, curb your appetite, regulate your digestion, improves your memory and concentration, treat and prevent urinary tract infections, ward off neurodegenerative diseases, kills bacteria that causes bad breath, naturally whiten your teeth, helps relieve dry mouth, protects your liver and your pancreas, and many many many more. So, why you still standing there go take your spoonful of coconut oil right now, I know I am!!! Learn more at: https://www.naturallivingideas.com/eat-coconut-oil/

Cranberries ~ Containing the highest amount of antioxidant, they have anti-inflammatory, anti-bacterial, anti-septic, detoxifying and cleansing properties. They are best know for the treatment and prevention of Uniary Tract Infections, but they also are very beneficial for our gut flora and heart. Learn more at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8ZY6F7QUSg

Dark Leafy Greens ~ Think green when it comes to health...the darker the green pigment the more rich it is with phytonutrients. Eating daily doses of dark leafy greens are beneficial for your entire body. They are high in B vitamins (especially folate), iron and have anti-aging and diabetes fighting properties. Learn more at: http://www.superlife.com/dark-leafy-greens/

Fermented Foods or Drinks ~ Your gut will love you so much if you eat fermented foods like sauerkraut and kimchi or drinks like kombucha or kefir. These probiotic rich foods are heaven sent for your microbiome aka gut bacteria because they produce their own enzymes which help you digest your food better and supply a healthy dose of B-vitamins and omega-3 fatty acids. I love drinking Kombucha and try to drink it everyday, if I don't I make sure I take my probiotic supplement. Learn more at: https://therealfoodrds.com/5-reasons-to-eat-fermented-foods-everyday/

Flax Seeds ~ high in omega-3 fatty acids, flax seeds are good for your mood, brain, heart and gut. If you are dealing with depression, flax seeds are your go to, research has found a link between intake of foods high in omega-3 fatty acids and a reduction in depression. They are also are heart level and can lower your cholesterol levels by 50%. I add flaxseeds to my oatmeal every morning. Learn more at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3jBDHn24Bpg

Garlic ~ Eating garlic regularly is not only good for us; it has been linked to reducing or even helping to prevent four of the major causes of death worldwide, including heart disease, stroke, cancer and infections. Learn more at: https://draxe.com/7-raw-garlic-benefits-reversing-disease/

Honey ~ aka liquid gold (besides breastmilk of course, which is also liquid gold...lol), Honey contains a treasure chest of hidden nutritional and medicinal value for centuries. The sweet golden liquid from the beehive is a popular kitchen staple loaded with antibacterial and antifungal properties that has been used since the early days of Egyptian tombs. Learn more at: https://www.medicaldaily.com/liquid-gold-7-health-benefits-honey-could-heal-your-whole-body-325932

Pumpkin Seeds ~ This crunchy and satisfying healthy snack is rich source of tryptophan, magnesium and zinc. If you need a restful night sleep, eat some pumpkins seeds before bed, the tryptophan in the pumpkin seeds turns into serotonin and melanin in our body. Pumpkin seeds have anti-diabetic properties and can aid in insulin regulation. Learn more at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPfB1nZl1OY

Seaweed ~ one of the richest plant sources of calcium, raw or sun dried seaweed contains: high protein content from 20% in green algae to 70% in spirulina; high mineral content (iodine, calcium, iron and magnesium); more vitamin C than oranges; anti-viral, anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory properties. My kids and I love to eat seaweed chips, they are so freaking delicious and nutritious! Learn more at: www.thebestrawfood.com

7 Essential Healing Oils to add to your Medicine Cabinet

Thu, 03 Mar 2016 23:32:14 GMT

If you are interested in throwing away all your synthetic allopathic medicines and replacing them with natural homeopathic remedies, herbs, spices and essential oils, congratulations, you have made the best decision for yourself and family.

If you are just beginning in your natural homeopathic journey, I suggest you start slowly with adding herbs, spices and essential oils to your medicine cabinet and food. For those interested in aromatherapy and using essential oils, you are the right place. If you are interested in herbs, check out my article "The 7 Healing Herbs" and if you are interested in spicing up your life and health, check out my article "The 7 Healing Spices". The following is a list of essential oils everyone should have in their medicine cabinet. Most of these oils are safe to use for anyone in the family, from baby to grandparents, with the exception of pregnant women and newborn babies.

These essential oils will replace over the counter medicines. So, if you are interested in ditching the OTC drugs for some real natural healing get a hold of these essential oils.

1. CHAMOMILE - has been used for centuries to calm and soothe the mind, body and soul. It has antibacterial, antiseptic, disinfectant and anti-inflammatory properties. It also has analgesic, diuretic, sedative and calming properties. There are 2 different types of chamomile with unique benefits. German Chamomile (GC) is used for: allergies, anger, arthritis, asthma, diarrhea, ear ache, easing irritation, eczema, hay fever, impatience, PMS, psoriasis, rheumatism, sprains, strains, sunburn, teething/toothaches and urinary infections. Roman Chamomile (RC) is used for: treating nervous conditions and insomnia.

• For mental/emotional health, either massage RC oil on temples, place a few drop of oil in warm bath, and/or place a few drops in an oil burner

• For allergies and hay fever, place some drops of GC on a tissue or cloth and inhale and/or massage neck, chest and back with a few drops of oil

• For skin issues like sensitive skin, eczema, dry skin, use a few drops of GC directly on affected area and/or add to oils and creams and/or add a few drops to a warm bath

• For menstrual pain and menopausal problems, use a combination of GC compresses, massage and baths; add a few drops of German Chamomile to a warm bath and/or massage oil or warm compress w/drops of oil onto lower abdomen

• For sprain, strains, muscular pain, inflamed joints and arthritis, massage a few drops of GC on affected areas

• For urinary infections, add a few drops of GC to a warm bath and/or massage oil or warm compress w/drops of oil onto lower abdomen

• For teething babies and toothaches, chamomile is one of the gentlest oils, massage a few drop of GC oil directly onto gums and cheeks

• For ear ache, massage a few drops of GC around ear and apply hot compress

• Warning: A variety of Mugwort (Artemisia arborescens) is often sold under the name of Blue Chamomile, it is very strong and should not be used during pregnancy. Beware of Maroc Chamomile which has similar properties as Chamomile but is not a true chamomile.

2. EUCALYPTUS - Its sweet, menthol, woody scent coupled with its proven healing abilities makes it a favorite essential oil in aromatherapy. The Australian Aborigines applied crushed eucalyptus to wounds to promote healing, they also used it to fight infection and relieve muscular pain. In India, eucalyptus was used to cool fever and fight contagious diseases. Today eucalyptus is used in many different types of pharmaceutical products, from vapor rubs to cold remedies. Therapeutic uses include: antibacterial, asthma, arthritis, chicken pox, coughs, decongestant, fever, insect repellent, measles, migraine, muscle pain, rheumatism, shingles, sinusitis, sprains and throat infections.

• For arthritis, muscle pains and rheumatism, mix 2-3 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and massage on affected area

• For asthma, cough, sinusitis, stuffed up noses and throat infections, use 5-7 drops in a vaporizer or mix in a carrier oil and massage on chest

• To kill airborne bacteria in a sickroom, use in a spray bottle, mix 10 drops of oil in 1 quart of water and shake well and spray

• To guard against fly infestation, put droplets of oil on ribbon and hang near windows or place on windowsills and replace/refresh weekly

• For chicken pox and shingles, use 2-3 drops on a cotton swab and apply to affected areas; relieves pain associated with these ailments

• As an insect repellent, mic equal amounts with bergamot and lavender; if applying to skin, use in a carrier oil; if using in a linen closet, apply to cotton balls and place on shelves

• To freshen up garbage bins, place a few drops of oil on a paper towel, and wipe over lid or place in the bottom of the bin to both kill germs and smells

• Warning: avoid during pregnancy. Do not use if diagnosed with high blood pressure or epilepsy. Always use in dilution. Avoid if taking homeopathic remedies, as eucalyptus acts as an antidote against such therapies.

3. LAVENDER - very versatile, lightly floral and soothing scent is why it is the most useful oil in aromatherapy. The therapeutic uses include: acne, alopecia, anxiety, asthma, bee/wasp stings, bronchial problems, depression, eczema, dermatitis, flu symptoms, insect repellent, insomnia, hay fever, headache, menstruation regulation, migraine, minor cuts/burns, mood swings, nervous tension, nightmares, psoriasis, rashes, sleep aid, stress, sunburn.

• For skin problems, including acne, dermatitis, eczema, psoriasis, rashes and sunburn, place 2-3 drops on a cotton ball and dab on affected area

• As a tonic for hair growth, mix 2-3 drops in a quarter-sized application of unscented leave-on conditioner and massage into scalp

• To alleviate headaches and migraines, massage a couple of drops into temples and/or use in a hot or cold compress

• To relieve insomnia or aid sleep, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser, or place same amount on a cotton ball or handkerchief and place inside pillowcase, or use 8-10 drops in bath before bedtime

• For anxiety, depression, nervous tension, stress or to balance mood swings, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser, or use 8-10 drops in bath.

• To guard against nightmares, use 8-10 drops in a bath before bedtime

• For menstrual regulation or PMS, use 4-5 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and massage on abdomen and lower back

• For bee and wasp stings, place 2-3 drops on cotton call and dab on affected area

• To lessen flu symptoms, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser or as a steam inhalation

• To repel moths, use several drops on cotton balls and place strategically in linen closet and/or wardrobe

• For asthma, bronchial problems and hay fever , use 2-3 drops in a diffuser or steam inhalation, or use 8-10 drops in bath or use 4-5 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and rub on chest area.

• Warning: can make those with low blood pressure drowsy

4. PEPPERMINT- one the most useful and beloved essential oils. Refreshing, cooling, uplifting and restoring. It is used to alleviate many ailments like: apathy, arthritis, asthma, bad breath, back pain, bowel disorders, bronchitis, colds and flu, coughs, cramps, faintness, fatigue, flatulence, digestive problems, headaches, mental exhaustion, migraine, mouth/gum infections, muscular pain, nausea, poor circulation, sinus congestion, shock, sunburn, tired feet, travel sickness, and vertigo.

• For apathy, fatigue and mental exhaustion, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser

• For asthma, bronchitis, coughs, and sinus congestion, use 2-3 drops in a steam inhalation or diffuser

• For bad breath and moth/gum infections, use as a mouthwash, apply 1 drop to 2tsp of apple cider vinegar and a cup of warm water and swish in mouth (don’t swallow), spit out and repeat 2x daily

• To ease the discomfort of colds and flu accompanied by a headache, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser

• For cramps, tired feet, back pain, bowel disorders (inflammation, constipation and flatulence), headaches, mental exhaustion, muscular pain, rheumatism and arthritis, use 3-4 drops in 1 ounce of carrier oil and massage on body and/or affected areas

• For digestive problems and flatulence, use 2-3 drops in a carrier oil and massage on back, can also be used in a compress

• For faintness, shock or vertigo, use 2-3 drops on a handkerchief and inhale periodically, can also be used in a diffuser

• To cool a fever, use 2-3 drops in a cold compress

• For headaches and migraines, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser

• To fight nausea, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser or place a couple of drops on a handkerchief and inhale periodically

• To cool sunburn, add 2-3 drops to 1 ounce of carrier oil, or put 2-3 drops on a cold compress

• To alleviate travel sickness, use 2-3 drops on a handkerchief and inhale periodically

• Warning: may cause irritation to sensitive, however it is rare. Do a patch test, first, before applying in large amounts. Do not us in baths.

5. ROSEMARY - An historical herb used to bring good luck, protect from evil spirits, and heal illnesses. Today rosemary is used a culinary herb and has many therapeutic uses as an essential oil. It's fresh, minty and woody aromas can fight fatigue, uplift spirits, renew enthusiasm, and boost self-confidence. It also has antibacterial and antiseptic properties, making it a strong ally against colds, flu and respiratory infections. It's therapeutic uses include: acne, arthritis, asthma, back pain, cellulite, colds, constipation, dandruff, depression, diarrhea, enthusiasm, fatigue, flu, fluid retention, greasy hair/skin, headaches, memory enhancement, menstrual pain, migraines, muscular pain, nervous exhaustion, respiratory infections, rheumatism, self-confidence, sinus problems, stiff neck.

• For acne and greasy skin, use 2-3 drops on a wet cotton ball and dab on affected area

• For asthma and respiratory infections, use 2-3 drops in a steam inhalation or in a diffuser or 8-10 drops in bath water

• For arthritis, back pain, muscular pain, rheumatism, or a stiff neck, use 2-3 drops in 1 ounce of carrier oil and massage on area

• To alleviate cellulite and fluid retention, use 2-3 drops in a carrier oil and massage on affected area regularly and/or use 8-10 drops in bath water

• To help the body fight colds and flu, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser and/or use 8-10 drops in bath water

• For constipation or diarrhea, use 8-10 drops in bath water and/or mix 2-3 drops with 1 ounce of carrier oil and massage on lower back and abdomen area

• For dandruff and greasy hair, add 2-3 drops of oil to unscented conditioner, leave on 3-5 minutes and then rinse

• To relieve depression, fatigue and nervous exhaustion, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser

• To restore enthusiasm, self-confidence and enhance memory, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser

• For headaches and migraines, especially those related to gastric upset, use 2-3 drops in a hot or cold compress and/or use 2-3 drops in a diffuser or 8-10 drops in bath water

• To alleviate menstrual pain, use 8-10 drops in bath water and/or mix 2-3 drops in carrier oil and massage on lower back and abdomen

• For sinus problems, use 2-3 drops in a steam inhalation

• Warning: Avoid if pregnant, diagnosed with epilepsy or high blood pressure. Do not rub or massage directly over or below varicose veins

6. TEA TREE - well-known for its antiseptic and germicidal properties, it has been used therapeutically by the aboriginal people of Australia for centuries. Its therapeutic uses include: acne, asthma, athlete's foot, blemishes from chicken pox and shingles, blisters, bronchitis, burns, chilblains, cold sores, colds, coughs, cracked/rough skin, dandruff, debilitating illnesses, fever, flu, insect bites, operation recovery, repeated infections, sinusitis, sunburn, varicose veins, warts and whooping cough.

• For acne, athlete's foot, blemishes from chicken pox and shingles, blisters, burns, chilblains, cold sores, cracked/rough skin, dandruff, insect bites, sunburn, varicose veins and warts, apply 2-3 drops to a Q-tip and apply directly on skin (do a patch test first to make sure it doesn’t cause an allergic reaction). You can also add 2-3 drops to water and then apply on skin or do a hair rinse for hair issues.

• For asthma, bronchitis, coughs, sinusitis and whooping cough, use 8-10 drops in bath water and/or use 2-3 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and massage gently on chest and back

• For colds and flu, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser and/or use 8-10 drops in bath water

• For fever, use 3-5 drops in a cold compress

• To help the body fight off repeated infections and debilitating illnesses, use 2-2 drops in a diffuser regularly and/or use 2-3 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and massage on body regularly

• To help prepare the body before an operation, mix 2-3 drops in 1oz carrier oil and massage on body; to help relieve postoperative shock, use in the same way, carefully avoiding the operation wound or scar

• Warning: Make sure to do a patch test before applying directly to skin. Limit usage to the problem area and avoid the surrounding skin. Do not massage directly on or around a varicose vein.

7. THYME - warm and spicy, thyme has been used by the Egyptians, Greeks, Romans and Middle Ages Knights. It has been used to bless temples, add flavor to food and liquor and was seen as a symbol of courage. Its therapeutic uses today, include: acne, arthritis, asthma, bronchitis, bruises, burns, chills, cold, coughs, cuts, dermatitis, eczema, flu, gout, gum infections, headaches, infectious diseases, insect bites, insomnia, laryngitis, mucous congestion, muscular aches/pains, physical exhaustion, poor circulation, oily skin, rheumatism, sinusitis, sore throat, sports injuries, sprains, stress-related complaints, tonsillitis and warts.

• For acne, bruises, burns, cuts, eczema, insect bites, oily skin, and warts, place 2-3 drops on cotton ball and dab on affected area

• For arthritis, gout, muscle aches/pains, sports injuries, sprains and rheumatism, use 2-3 drops in 1oz carrier oil and massage on affected area

• For asthma, bronchitis and coughs, use 2-3 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and rub on chest and throat and/or use 2-3 drops in a steam inhalation

• For chills associated with cold and flu, use 2-3 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and massage on body

• For colds, flu, mucous infections and sinusitis, use 2-3 drops in a steam inhalation

• For gum infections, sore throat and tonsillitis, use diluted in a gargle or mouthwash; apply 1 drop to 2tsp of apple cider vinegar and a cup of warm water and swish in mouth (don’t swallow), spit out and repeat 2x daily

• For insomnia, physical exhaustion and stress-related complaints, use 2-3 drops in a diffuser

• For headaches, use 2-3 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and massage on temples and neck and/or use in a hot or cold compress

• To combat poor circulation, use 2-3 drops in 1oz of carrier oil and massage on body

• Warning: avoid if diagnosed with high blood pressure. Not to be used in baths. Some highly sensitive people could have a reaction, so do a patch test, first, before using directly on skin.

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References:

Davis, P. (1995). An A-Z Aromatherapy. US: Barnes and Noble Books.

Pierson, P.J., & Shipley, Mary. (2004). Aromatherapy for Everyone: Discover the Scents of Health and Happiness with essential oils. Garden City Park, NY: Square One Publishers.

Worwood, V.A. (1991). The Complete Book of Essential Oils & Aromatherapy. San Rafael, CA: New World Library.

Worwood, V.A. (2000). Aromatherapy for the Healthy Child. Novato, CA: New World Library.